I find making decisions tough.
It is just how it is for me.
I mean, the very origin of the word should hold a clue: to cut off.
In making a decision, we cut off all the other possibilities.
As someone who likes options and freedom (ummm, hello…almost all my courses, coaching programmes and projects are about how to build more freedom into our lives), it should be no surprise that I like to have my cake and eat it too (*side note* wtf kind of phrase is that, anyway?!).
Because of my relationship to decision making, I need to use a few tricks on myself.
Here’s one I want to share, which I call the “48 Hour Rule”.
You can use it when:
1. You want to “try on” a decision and see how it feels
2. To stop yourself from making an impulsive decision
3. To reverse a decision that don’t work for you
I had to put the rule into action this past weekend. Twice.
As I am sure you are well aware, it was Black Friday last Friday. What you maybe don’t know is that I LOVE creating beautiful spaces and am right at the finish line of our new guest studio that has been under construction for the last couple of months.
The timing is perfect ’cause I need to get it guest-ready in the next two weeks. I’m talking fridges, stoves, glasses, linen, beds, towels, tiles, paint. You get the idea.
So, naturally, I was preparing for Black Friday as one would prepare for a race: hard.
(As a side, I actually hate shopping, and am a striving minimalist. But, if you are buying the stuff anyway, might as well be when its on sale).
My entire house needed painting and I discovered a mega deal on exterior wall paint on Tuesday and had the perfect opportunity to put the 48 hour rule into practice in the wait for Friday.
Here’s what you do:
You make an imaginary decision about something and wait 48 hours with that decision before taking action.
Hubby and I both liked a rather modern grey colour and I got to “try on” the choice mentally while waiting for Friday to arrive.
I felt good. The 48 hour rule had returned a confirmation. All systems go!
Friday arrived and I went and bought 100 litres of the stuff.
The painter immediately got busy and at first, we all loved it. (That’s the wonderful Fikile approving 🙂
The shade is gorgeous.
There was excitement all round.
But, as the painter progressed and the entire house turned darker and darker…my doubts crept in.
By Saturday morning, I woke up with a knot in my stomach and the pang of regret that I lived in a dark gloomy house.
I wearily brought this up with hubby, and we put the 48 hour rule in action again.
For the rest of the weekend (while the painter wasn’t available anyway), I wondered what it would be like to have a white house again versus this grey one.
Each time I ran that emotional query, the answer came back the same:
Yes, I want white!
When Monday rolled around, I called the paint shop…explained how horrid it looked grey and asked if they’d exchange it.
And, there you have it, guys.
The simplest way to check how you feel with cutting off possibilities.
And, giving yourself permission to change your mind when something isn’t working and you’ve made the choice you don’t feel good about.
This coming week, ‘try on’ the “48 Hour Rule” and don’t be afraid to use it to change back if it feels right.
Yours in freedom & friendship,
P.s. My house is now a shiny shade of brilliant white, and I am over the moon that I had the courage to reverse a decision that would have been horrid to live with.